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The enduring relationship between Danny DeVito and Rhea Perlman continues to challenge traditional Hollywood narratives of divorce and estrangement, as the couple maintains a steadfast commitment to family and friendship despite their legal separation. In a revealing cover story for AARP The Magazine published on Wednesday, the 81-year-old DeVito shared insights into the daily mechanics of their lives, confirming that while they have been separated for several years, they remain an integral part of each other’s existence. The "Taxi" and "It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia" star disclosed that he and Perlman, 78, speak every day and gather for weekly meals, prioritizing their roles as parents and grandparents over the formalities of a traditional marital structure.
According to DeVito, the frequency of their interactions remains high, with the actor noting that he is a constant presence at Perlman’s home. The couple’s focus has shifted toward their shared legacy, particularly their three children and two young grandchildren. DeVito emphasized that regardless of life’s transitions, the presence of reliable family and friends constitutes the most vital element of a person’s well-being. This philosophy of "amicable separation" has allowed the pair to navigate the complexities of a public life while preserving a private foundation of mutual respect and affection that spans over half a century.
A Legacy of Partnership: From Off-Broadway to Television Royalty
The foundation of the DeVito-Perlman union was laid in 1971, during the vibrant era of New York City’s off-Broadway theater scene. Their meeting was as unconventional as their current relationship; Perlman reportedly fell "at first sight" for DeVito after watching him perform in the play "The Shrinking Bride," where he portrayed a "demented stable boy." The connection was instantaneous, leading Perlman to move into DeVito’s Manhattan apartment just two weeks after their first meeting.
Throughout the 1970s and 1980s, the couple’s personal and professional lives became inextricably linked. While DeVito rose to fame as the irascible Louie De Palma on the hit sitcom "Taxi" (1978–1983), Perlman carved out her own legendary status as the sharp-tongued barmaid Carla Tortelli on "Cheers" (1982–1993). Their professional collaboration was evident early on, as Perlman appeared in five episodes of "Taxi" as Zena Sherman, the girlfriend of DeVito’s character. This period solidified their status as a Hollywood power couple, characterized by their shared wit, small stature—both stand approximately five feet tall—and deep roots in the New York and New Jersey theater traditions.
The Evolution of a Marriage: A Timeline of Resilience
The trajectory of DeVito and Perlman’s marriage has been marked by both longevity and public periods of transition. After living together for eleven years, the couple officially wed on January 28, 1982. Their union lasted 30 years before the first public announcement of a separation in October 2012. However, the split was short-lived, and by March 2013, the couple had reconciled, demonstrating a willingness to work through the challenges common to long-term partnerships.
The current phase of their relationship began in March 2017, when they announced a second separation. Unlike many high-profile Hollywood splits, this transition did not lead to a contentious divorce. In various interviews, including a 2023 appearance on the "Wiser Than Me" podcast with Julia Louis-Dreyfus, Perlman confirmed that she and DeVito have no intention of legally divorcing. "We are still married," she stated, adding that while the initial period of separation was difficult and necessitated by reasons she chose to keep private, they eventually reached a "pretty decent understanding."
This "decent understanding" involves a daily communication schedule and a shared commitment to their three adult children: Lucy, 43; Gracie, 41; and Jake, 38. The family has recently expanded to include a new generation, with the couple doting on their three-year-old granddaughter, Sinclair, and two-year-old grandson, Carmine.
The Cultural Impact of Jersey Films and Matilda
Beyond their television success, DeVito and Perlman’s partnership significantly influenced American cinema through their production company, Jersey Films. Founded by DeVito, the company was responsible for producing some of the most iconic films of the 1990s and early 2000s, including "Pulp Fiction," "Get Shorty," and "Erin Brockovich."
Perhaps their most beloved collaboration remains the 1996 film adaptation of Roald Dahl’s "Matilda." DeVito directed the film and starred as the unscrupulous Harry Wormwood, while Perlman played his equally neglectful wife, Zinnie Wormwood. The film has become a multi-generational classic, and the couple’s performance as the comedic antagonists remains a highlight of their joint career. The film also served as a family milestone, as it allowed them to work together while raising their children, further blurring the lines between their creative and domestic lives.
Current Projects and the Next Generation of DeVito Talent
As Danny DeVito enters his ninth decade, his professional output remains as robust as ever, often involving his family members in his creative endeavors. A significant upcoming project is the heist comedy-thriller "Drag," scheduled for U.S. theatrical release on January 29, 2027. The film is a definitive "family affair," produced by DeVito alongside his son, Jake, and daughter, Lucy. Lucy DeVito, who has built a successful acting career in her own right, also stars in the production.
In addition to "Drag," DeVito is set to continue his record-breaking run on "It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia." The 18th season of the FX/Hulu series is slated to premiere on August 17, with DeVito reprising his role as the eccentric multi-millionaire Frank Reynolds. The show holds the distinction of being the longest-running live-action sitcom in American television history, a feat fueled in large part by DeVito’s willingness to embrace "out-there" humor.
DeVito is also returning to the big screen in "Jumanji: Open World," the fifth and final installment of the revitalized action franchise. Reprising his role as the cantankerous Eddie Gilpin, DeVito joins an ensemble cast that includes Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson, Jack Black, Kevin Hart, and Karen Gillan. The film is positioned as a major holiday release, hitting theaters on December 25.
Analysis: The Rise of the "Amicable Ex" in the Public Eye
The relationship between DeVito and Perlman reflects a broader cultural shift in how long-term partnerships are perceived and managed. Their decision to remain married while living separate lives mirrors other high-profile examples, such as Meryl Streep and Don Gummer or Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith, where couples prioritize the "family unit" over the traditional requirements of a romantic cohabitation.
From a sociological perspective, the DeVito-Perlman model emphasizes "relationship continuity." By maintaining daily contact and weekly family meals, they mitigate the disruptive effects often associated with divorce. For celebrities of their stature, this approach also provides a level of privacy and stability that protects their children and grandchildren from the tabloid scrutiny typically triggered by legal battles.
The couple’s ability to transition from romantic partners to "best friends" is facilitated by their deep-rooted shared history. Having survived the pressures of the entertainment industry during its most competitive eras, they have developed a shorthand and a mutual reliance that transcends the need for a shared residence. As DeVito noted in his AARP interview, the ability to "open up" and "rely on someone to be there" is the ultimate measure of a successful life.
A Family Bound by Cinema and Shared History
The bond between DeVito, Perlman, and their children was recently highlighted in a video for Architectural Digest, where the trio discussed their lifelong passion for film. DeVito recounted a memory of standing in the rain for over an hour with Perlman in New York City to see "The Godfather" upon its release. Such anecdotes illustrate a relationship built on shared experiences and a mutual love for the arts—a foundation that appears to have remained unshaken by their change in marital status.
As they continue to support one another’s individual projects and collaborate on family-led productions, DeVito and Perlman serve as a testament to the idea that a relationship’s value is not solely defined by its duration as a romantic union, but by the depth of the friendship and the strength of the family it produces. With multiple films on the horizon and a growing brood of grandchildren, the DeVito-Perlman clan remains one of Hollywood’s most resilient and unified families, proving that in the world of show business, the most enduring roles are often the ones played off-camera.
